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Revive the romance after 40

Having been in a relationship for more than a few years, there is a chance that you might feel the need to revive the romance with your other half.


Try these four tips to ignite the love flame again!

1. Talk about your feelings: We all want to be understood, right? But, do you ever get the feeling he is just not picking up the cues you are giving about how you are feeling? I suggest giving up on having him guess what is going on in your head. Instead, you will get much more mileage from changing your tactics a bit. I know that women over 40 are just not great at changing what they are used to, we have been doing it for so long! but try this simple tip: when something is on your mind, let him know just how you are feeling: "Can we talk for a minute? I want to share what I am feeling right now" should work great. You won't believe how much saying this will get him to tune into your emotional state.

2. Show him your own style: Whether you have been keeping yourself in tip-top shape or have let yourself go a bit in recent years, you are still all woman. Your man's attraction to you will go up tenfold if you start showing confidence in your looks again. Remember that a woman in her 40s is at her sexual peak! Try focusing on your best asset and learn to show it off again. Strut your stuff and let him know you've still got it. Doing this will definitely light his fire.  (read our fashion and beauty sections for great tips on how to look your best!)

3. Acknowledge his uniqueness: Every man has some special skill or ability that he loves to hear about.  And believe me, your man is no exception. Acknowledge his specialness daily in your words, your actions, and your facial expressions. Let him know you see him for who he is and that you respect him. This will put your man in heaven and make him want you around even more.

4. Give him his space: Sometimes, when we feel distant from our man we can tend to crowd him a bit. Here is a common scene: she tries to move closer and he backs off emotionally - and then the cycle just repeats itself. Try some reverse psychology here. The next time he sends signals to you that he needs some space, give it to him! Your supportive attitude and understanding will actually make him feel even closer to you. If you do this, he may still go off into his cave sometimes, but his return will be swifter. And when he does, he will actually feel closer to you than before he left.

Read more about love in your 40s.

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